This occurred to me quite stoutly when I was crossing the street last week to reach a lunch destination (which was quite delicious). Anyone who has strolled with me knows that once the little walking man has pranced out of sight and an orange hand appears, I heed the sign. No sprinting across the street. No frantic bounding to the other side. These are both permutations of something I and I'm certain most people are acutely fearful of: looking stupid. Plus, cars are bigger than humans on the whole. (I imagine that I can overturn one of those smart cars if exceptionally enraged). There is something so intensely bothersome to me about sneering disapproval or even thin filmy veils of disparagement: from people I know, from strangers on the street, as well as dance partners. Perhaps this is also why my leading efforts in tango have not been so successful: I've been terrified of being hit and seeming hopelessly maladroit.
Im leaving for China on Sunday and will come to a new type of milonga, one of honking cars, overcrowded buses, innumerable bikes: a whole city of drivers. Although I will seek to cut a rug in studios and shake a leg in clubs to be sure, this time will be a thoroughly new exercise in driving and leading myself in this foreign metropolitan dance.
a tango nuevo indeed.
Leading to me is about the willingness to make an ass of oneself (Actually, most of, my, life falls under this umbrella of a philosophy). Even the act of going up to ask a girl to dance is just loaded with chances for embarrassing failure.
ReplyDeleteI have more fun watching dancers trying and failing at something new, at risking a move that could very well end up with a knee perilously close to precious dangling objects, then people who have perfected a particular style and just dance with their brains off.
Not that there isn't a time for relaxing zone-out Tango~
-Carl